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Struggling with a relationship issue?

Do these feelings whirl round in your thoughts?

  • I really don’t want to live with this for another 20 years. Something needs to change, soon.
  • Why can’t he/she see it is their fault?
  • I can’t seem to explain to her/him how I fee.
  • Why does no-one seem to believe me?
  • I feel I give everything and get nothing in return
  • How are our relationship difficulties affecting the children?


You are not alone, these are common reactions when relationships run into problems.


Man and Woman arguing



I want to change my relationship for the better, but how?

These may be the thoughts and questions you may have running through your head about love and your relationship. These relationship worries are common and shared by many people. You may now be feeling that the time has come to take action to improve things, and counselling is an excellent way to proceed. Let me explain why counselling is a powerful way forward, and commend you on your courage to decide to look for a positive change. Call me now on 020 8440 0495 or discreetly message me on 07894 980994 and take the first step.

Women and men are fundamentally different, they both need to be in loving relationships but the most challenging thing people have is having a relationship! I find one person in a relationship typically seeks help because they may be concerned about an inability to explain to the other partner what’s going on. They have feelings of hurt, concerns for the children, or one or other may have had an affair. They wonder if they are being believed when they speak up. There is always the strong sense that they want the next decade or two to be much better than the current one.

Who makes the first step?

The person that gets in touch with me often considers it is the other who is at fault, because they seem okay, and the caller is not. It is normally the woman, although occasionally men make the first move to get help. Sometimes men come to me because they are told to come to me by their partner. I can successfully work with one person, though it is better if both of you come.

I will work hard to build a positive rapport and trust with you. My sessions are conducted in a safe and confidential environment, and I promise to offer you my empathy, genuineness, and understanding. You will find my counselling genuine, safe and therapeutic, and you’ll soon start making different decisions about your relationship. This comes from within, and I will help these decisions surface for you.

Listening and understanding will lead to positive change

I will help you explore why, for example, one partner may feel they don’t know how to explain what’s going on and the other seems passive, or defensive. By listening and sometimes challenging, we’ll together identify the imbalance, feelings of hurt, and problems for the relationship. I will help you understand about how to manage compromise, and how to turn this to a win-win. Clients have told me of the relief of being believed. Sometimes I find one or both of the couple have lost the skill of giving and receiving, and a positive change needs to be rediscovered to help both realise they both still love each other and are getting something from the relationship.

When couples have children, as you may have, I find they are often concerned to stay together to work things out for the children. Adults have coping mechanisms but children do not, and they do suffer when relationships go wrong. My experience is that couples are willing to seek help to work things out.

Rediscovering how to feel good about your relationship

Dealing with blame is often easily resolved. There is a huge sense of relief that the other that they don’t have to make that person better. I have an image of two trees standing side-by-side with the branches touching at the top but they don’t have to feel completely dependent on the other to make them feel good. Relationships are the same. We will explore together how you both can learn to feel good about yourselves without needing the other to do it. Relationships work best by being interdependent.

During the counselling sessions, there’s a moment when change for the better happens. It is a powerful realisation for the couple that they can manage something for themselves, and not have to rely on the other to make it better for them. This comes as a huge relief to both parties. They both gain a sense of teamwork and suddenly feel empowered, no longer blaming the other.

Two couples’ experiences

“I have been working with Anita to overcome challenges I have faced in my past and present. This was something I was very hesitant to do at first as I felt embarrassed about getting help but I can honestly say it was one of the best decisions I have made.

Not only have I developed skills and been given tools to overcome problems I have faced but this has given me a huge confidence boost in all aspects of life varying from work performance, my attitude to relationships with friends and partners as well as confidence within myself. I feel like I finally have the power to pick myself up when I’m having difficult days and find it easier to manage obstacles. This is something I struggled with a year ago and now I feel like I have improved and continue to develop skills and approaches in being the best version of myself I can be and that’s thanks to the guidance from Anita.

I can’t thank her enough for all the support I have received and continue to recieve I fully recommend her expertise to anyone that needs guidance in their lives. you will start to see incredible results and Anita will be there throughout your journey.”

Helena, July 2021

And this example of a recent client, Kayleigh, talking about her daughter and then her partner:

“Mine and her relationship has also greatly improved, well as much as it can with a 13 year old and Jack and I talk and communicate so much better and that is undoubtedly due to the work we did with you.”

Kayleigh, Winter 2018/9
(Kayleigh, Jack and Helena are pseudonyms)

Dealing with relationships’ riskier times

I often find more people come to me for counselling after Christmas, or after a holiday. When we spend 24 hours a day together over an extended time, there are huge challenges that strain any relationship, the extra bits come to the surface. But if we understand why this happens, I will help you see how to effectively deal with the strains from this occasion and avoid future ones.

Sometimes, inevitably counselling will uncover that one party really does want to leave. I make it really clear in the beginning, that unless you care about the other person and that you and the other person really do want to improve your relationship, then you are wasting your money and time. However, much more importantly, if the counselling does turn you both round, think about what has been avoided.

Time to act

Don’t hold back. It is time now to take your first decision to powerfully rebuild your relationship with your partner. Find the courage to decide to write to me below to arrange a 10 minute private conversation, or phone me on 020 8440 0495 (you may need to leave a message). People often ring me between 9:30am to lunchtime when they have a private moment. Let us both see how I will help you and your partner take the first powerful step towards changing your future love and relationship for the better.


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“Just to say a massive thank you for all your support, help and guidance as my counsellor during this challenging life experience. Has been a massive contribution to getting me back-on-track; and to enhancing my learnings to support my future and my decisions that I may take….”

David Nov 2014

About Anita

Anita Jackson is a trained consultant and has a PGDip Psychosynthesis Counselling and Teacher/Dip Imagework. She is a member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP).





Struggling with a relationship issue?

Call me on

0208 440 0495

for a free 10 minute discussion about it and what to do about it.  (Or, send me a discreet message from your device to 07894 980994.)

“Dear Anita,

I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for all your help these past few months. You were always there to listen and guide me through my problems.

My world is a much happier place to live in since you have freed my mind.”

Summer 2012 client

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